It’s been a while since we’ve been active on the blog and
that is because we’ve had some SERIOUSLY AWESOME news… Our family of two is now
a family of THREE!
Wait what? Rewind.
When we last left you back in February we were busy
fundraising for our adoption (which was awesome and so so special,) and had
officially gone “live” with our agency, meaning that we were able to start being
shown as a waiting family to expectant mothers/families. One of the things that
we knew going in was that this part of the process can take time and that lots
of families wait months and even years for a match, so we were really trying to
prepare ourselves for some time to pass (especially when COVID hit the US and pretty
much all things shut down).
Over that first few months we were presented with a few
possible matching opportunities, (which is when you are given VERY limited
information about a potential match, and which you say yes or no to being
presented to) all of which ended in disruption of varying kinds. (Disruptions
during the matching process are very common). We tried our hardest to not get
our hopes up and all the while were very cautiously going through the process
of purchasing the bare bones needed for a nursery if a match were to happen.
Note: Lots of families do NOT choose to begin a
nursery until they’re farther along in the matching process, but I’m a planner
to a fault and wanted to be able to walk the line of not being in a Walmart the
buying whatever was available the night of a match and also not having a fully
decorated and completed nursery. Honestly it really gave me something to focus
on and plan for, which helped me a lot especially when stay at home orders went
into effect and we weren’t leaving our home often.
In the first three months that we were “live” we were
presented with 3 possible matches all of which ended up being disrupted, and
with Eric always saying that they just didn’t feel right. We laugh now that
whenever I felt good about a match he was wary (and right much of the time). Knowing
that the process could take several months was always in the back of our mind,
so you can imagine our surprise when our case worker (who is literally an angel
from heaven, we love her so much) sent us a text in early May asking if we could
join her on a video call. We’d matched with a baby being born in late July. I
wish there was a screenshot of our faces because I know that we both were
entirely in shock the whole call. We group called both of our parents to tell
them the big news and frantically started reading every parenting book we
could. We’d scheduled video calls with the birth parents to be (this was heavy
in the middle of stay at home time,) which were all so nerve wracking… would
they like us, what would we talk about… I was completely a wreck. We ended up
having a lovely call with both birth parents… and things from there pretty
quickly went off the rails.
Eric will tell you that he’d had a feeling that something
felt a little off, but I was pretty heartbroken when we received an email that
one of the parents was no longer comfortable with an adoption plan. I won’t go
into a lot of details because disruptions are so common, and it truly is a
great thing when people choose to parent their children. Looking back now I have
nothing but the most love for that family and wish them all the best.
Because y’all, I am a believer that things happen when
they’re supposed to.
We’d heard from countless families who had already adopted
that you had to be patient, that God’s timing was perfect, and that YOUR baby
is out there and will come to you when it’s meant. When we received the call
that there wasn’t an adoption plan anymore, we asked to be put back onto the
waiting parents list.
And LITERALLY five days later we were presented with a
possible matching situation for a little boy to be born in July. We said yes.
Hint: It has a VERY happy ending 💓
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